My son comes by his temper honestly. Both his dad and I have struggled with managing ours and have each ended up with a different strategy. My husband’s flares and blusters, them blows over. Mine disconnects me, leaves me quiet and withdrawn (so as to keep from igniting). I’m not sure either way is good or right or worth passing on.
My son gets frustrated, then pissed. He can’t get his arms to move correctly so he can crawl, causing him to move backward or thump his head, and he fusses, then cries, then blows up and looks to us for help.
Admittedly, we too often rescue him. We cheat by pushing the toy a bit closer, giving his feet something to push against, or lifting him out of the frustrating situation for a snuggle. This is where day care’s periodic ignoring of him balances us.
But I want to start teaching him that frustration is totally okay but giving up isn’t. I suspect I do this by ignoring him a bit more when he’s learning something new, a strategy that is anathema but probably necessary.
Any other ideas? How do you teach your kids (or pets!) to deal with frustration?