Now that we can talk about Twister, a poll

Last week I had my implant removed.  Why?  At the time it seemed clear: I had no s*x drive and I wanted to be hormone-free for a while.  Now?  I’m not so sure.  What good is a s*x drive if you’re not having s*x? And the hormone-free thing?  He-llooo, emotional roller coaster!

I’m thirty (read: not getting any younger) and I was very tired of wanting to want my husband, he of the cute dancing and silly grin, so I figured spending some time getting to know my cycle (sounds icky, doesn’t it?) might be a good idea.  When we’re ready to start trying to spawn (it’s a JOKE), I want us to be ready to go.

Now?  Every time my husband approaches me with that look (your husbands have “that look” too, right?), visions of puking on planes and frantic attempts to de-house ensue.  No thanks, buddy.

So now I’m not sure what to do.  Doctors seem hell-bent on pushing the hormonal birth control, but I don’t want hormones! *stomping feet* Barrier methods seem so 1980’s, somehow.  And c*ndoms?  No, thanks.  There’s a 100% chance of failure when you hate your method so much you don’t use it, ya know?

What kind of birth control do you use? And do you like it?

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14 thoughts on “Now that we can talk about Twister, a poll

  1. I’m on a mono-phasic pill, meaning that I take the same dose of hormones every day. This also allows me to skip periods very easily if I so choose (and most of the time I do skip them). Think Seasonale but without the fancy name/marketing. I love it, but I’m 24 and nowhere NEAR ready to…spawn (love that term, by the way). I’m not married yet (about a month away) so we take extra precautions and use condoms as well. I suspect once we’re married we’ll stop using them. That terrifies me for some reason.

    This is kind of gross, but he could always pull out? I know that’s not really fun for either party involved, but…maybe? I mean, unless you’re into that kind of thing. I don’t judge 🙂

  2. Ha. I’m very opinionated with it comes to the BC. Rightly or Wrongly my gut feeling is that BC has SOMETHING to do with all the infertility going around these days.

    Since I’m also a ‘goody goody’ I didn’t use BC until I was 28 or 29. So for 15 years I had a normal cycle with no issues. Went on Yaz for about 18 months. (HATED – had every side effect in the book and then some… was just kinda stupid about not trying something else because I didn’t want my body to be a constant experiment) Finally switched to the Nuva Ring for a year. I actually liked the ring, fewer side effects, didn’t have to remember a pill everyday. I never ‘tried’ to skip my period as this just seems way unnatural to me.

    Anyways. Went off both so I could regulate my cycle and get ready for the next stage in life. Oh wait – my cycle never regulated. I was diagnosed with PCOS. It’s a miracle we got our timing in sync with my totally wacko ovulation before having to start using fertility drugs. I told the doc I wanted to give it 6 more months…. and we got so very lucky.

    But really. I had no issues with my cycle for 15 years. So yes I blame all of this on the BC. And I will never use it again. The plan will be condoms/natural planning after this baby. After baby #2 we’ll prob use the same until we decide we’re really ‘done’ and then hubby will be visiting his doctor 🙂

    I warned you I was opinionated on this subject 🙂 REALLY REALLY REALLY wish I stuck to my original gut feelings and NEVER put those hormones in my body and just let it continue to work the way nature intended 🙂

  3. I’m starting to lean towards Jilian’s opinion. I went of BC in February and have been charting since then. It’s really easy and people who are a little anal (like you and me from what I can tell on here) kind of find it intruiging. Pop “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” onto your Kindle. Great resource…what people should have told us when they pulled us aside in 5th grade. Or if they would have pulled us aside again in maybe 8th. You’re not really primed to conceive that many days in the month so hubby can give you that look and you know whether you need to bring back the ’80s or go for it with no raincoat (as I tell my husband).

  4. I’m not a fan of the hormones either but I wasn’t looking to get pregnant for 8 years and that was WAY too long to try and use raincoats. I don’t like them either. So I had a copper IUD put in. I love it. It’s not without it’s drawbacks but they’re worth it to me. It’s something you might consider when you’re done having kids but I don’t think it’s worth getting unless you’ll have it for at least a few years.

  5. I’ve been on the Nuva Ring- FOREVER. Seriously, since before it was widely available- almost 10 years ago. I love it. But off BC I’ve never been regular, so for me- sex or no sex, I need something to regulate my cycle.

  6. I do hormonal (the pill). It’s okay. It doesn’t bother me much, but the kind I took before gave me the worst headaches I have ever had in my life. My opinion is that you can work with your doc to find a good pill, and I blame infertility problems on women waiting to 35+ to try, and nutrition.

    Right now, I want to feel sure there will be no surprises. And I don’t like c*ndoms, but when I get extra irritated I say that if I’m spending a dollar a day for pills I don’t like, then we should switch to a dollar a pop for the raincoats. And I tell my husband that after kids, he can look forward to a vasectomy. I think he’s warming up to that idea.

  7. I’ve been using FAM (fertility awareness method) for over two years now successfully and I love it. LOVE IT.
    Successfully for us right now means that my husband and I are avoiding pregnancy – but I know the knowledge I’ve gained about my cycle will be invaluable when we want to start trying.

    I second cjm’s recommendation to pop ‘Taking Charge of your Fertility’ onto your kindle and take a read. It’s mind-blowing what I didn’t know about my own body even when I thought I was well educated on it all. Charting for me really wasn’t the inconvenience I thought it would be. Especially compared to HBC (I wrote about my decision here http://lovelindseykaye.blogspot.com/2010/03/tmi.html). Since you’re already off bc, why not give charting a try for a couple months while you weigh your options on it all. Oh, and be sure to pick up a digital thermometer with a memory function so in the morning you can just stick it in your mouth in the dark and put it away when it beeps until you want to write your temp. down later.

  8. Condoms aren’t so bad, right?

    But I suppose I should back up.

    When we first got married, we were very good young faithful people and we did Natural Family Planning. Which is great except for the part where you never, uh, play Twister. Kind of a downer. After a year of that (yes, the first year we were married. TOTAL bummer). We realized we didn’t want kids all that soon and we were both quite frustrated so we decided to be bad people and try condoms. Then we tried every kind of condom we could find. Then we just got the dormitory bulk variety pack. Ahem.

    Do you know how awesome condoms are when you couldn’t ever have sex before, _especially_ on the days when you really wanted to? They are awesome. I love them.

    To be fair, I appreciate understanding my cycle and I’m an expert on it for whenever we decide we do actually want to get knocked up, and I wouldn’t have gone with hormones for all kinds of reasons (including environmental – all that stuff ends up in the water stream… ick), so that year was one of figuring stuff out. But yeah, given the choice between married celibacy and condoms, there is no choice.

  9. A little off topic… but I was thinking today how much I missed reading your postings and why wasn’t your website updating – and after some creative thinking I managed to track you down through your recent wedding bee post! I’m so glad to have found you again!

  10. I would love to go off the pill – after almost 10 years on a triphasic (ortho tri cyclen lo) method, I love the predictability of my periods but hate how it effects my sex drive. The hubs and I are at least a year away from trying but “accidents” happen and I don’t think we’re completely unprepared if we were to get pregnant without intent. I need to pick up that book. Today. And how much money would we save per month from not paying for hormonal contraceptives? About $70 – (ortho doesn’t have a generic version anymore and my employer is Catholic based and insurance won’t cover BC.)

  11. Yeah!! I’ve found you again!! I’m glad you guest posted on Jenna’s blog… I was missing your great witty posts!!

    I use birth control pills (the generic version of Seasonel to be most specific). I wish I didn’t have to, I’m convinced they are killing my sex drive. I’m newly married (2 months or so) and we’ve berely had sex since we got home from the honeymoon. We’ve been dealing with some heavy things in those 2 months, but it still sucks that we aren’t connecting. I may check out that book everyone is talking about in the comments… maybe we could try that. However, I worry the fear of getting pregnant would make it even more difficult to want to play!

  12. You don’t know me – I follow That Wife. 🙂 So… you might not really want my advice! lol.

    I don’t know why you don’t want the hormones, so this might not even be applicable. I went through five different kinds of birth control pills. I think that some times people try one, or maybe two, and then decide they’ll just live with it. I am on a one hormone, small dosage pill. I was not willing to accept any negative side effects, and there are SO MANY different kinds that every one should be able to find one that works well for them. I like that the one I’m taking is low-dose, and simple. It cleared up my skin, made my cramps disappear (this was my goal, since they were actually making me pass out), I have a 3 day period, the sex-drive is great, and I’m not nearly as moody as I used to be. I’ve also read that most people can get pregnant as soon as they stop taking the pill. Every person is different, so being willing to find the one that works for you is critical. I think so many people just accept the one they are given.

    I always ask my Dr why they pick a certain medication, and ask them to consider all of the things I want. You have to take the pill for about a month before you will notice most side-effects, but a few months in trying to find the right one is much better than a few years with a pill that isn’t doing every thing it could for your body.

    Good luck.

  13. I was on a low-hormone pill for 2 months and HATED it. I felt completely disconnected from my body and had nasty side effects like month-long spotting and super-sore breasts. Also, my family has a long history of breast cancer, so I’m paranoid about messing with my hormones. We used condoms for a month or two, but let’s face it – they’re kind of a bummer. So, I decided to go retro and got a diaphragm. We use that (plus spermicide) and have been pregnancy-free for a year and a half! BEST. DECISION. EVER.

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