As I’ve mentioned before, my husband mountain bikes, a fabulous (and expensive) hobby that gets him out of the house and away from baby duty for four hours each week, not to mention the hours spent researching new gear and visiting local bike shops. After a few weeks of fully supporting his outings by handling bedtime duty alone, I found myself resenting him quite a bit tonight.
I need my own hobby. He’s fully supportive of my finding a hobby and keeps suggesting things, but I push the idea away for some reason. Not sure why.
Here’s what I want:
A comparable and no-guilt passion, one that gets me out of the house at a semi-convenient time (can’t conflict with my husband’s school schedule now, or my work schedule later) on a regular basis.
It should be scheduled in some way, like a class, so that I don’t procrastinate it away.
Since I’m a practical person, it should be useful or beneficial or somehow fit into the things I’m already drawn to.
Bonus points for being physical, but of course, I’m not drawn to physical things.
To be okay with spending money on something just for me. To be okay with leaving for a few hours just for me. Maybe even to do something that’s not practical or useful, but just for me.
I must must must be able to do it alone. Or with people, but not with my husband or kiddo or else it won’t be my hobby. It can involve them sometimes, but should not be dependent on their involvement.
Ways this could work:
I could make a commitment to any of the things I’ve already dipped my toes into: photography, yoga, bike riding.
I could ask you guys what your hobbies are and steal an idea or two.
Maybe I can just pick a class at the university that sounds interesting even if it doesn’t seem like my thing.
To do some thinking. What could I enjoy that doesn’t involve Joey or my kid or buying things (ie: shopping only)?
To explore possibilities, like whether there’s room in that photography class that starts on Thursday or if there’s a yoga class I could realistically attend regularly.
To not get bogged down by money spending or gear buying or having to sign up.
To be as supportive of myself as I am of Joey and his fun stuff.
To not feel bad about leaving my kiddo with his dad, even at bedtime, even once a week. They’ll figure it out just like we’ve figured it out when Joey is riding.
What are your hobbies? Any ideas for me?