“I try to raise them the same way I was raised, just in a bigger house.” – Jennifer Lopez on The Today Show
I think a lot about what I’m teaching my son when it comes to money and opportunities and “stuff.” Correction: I think a lot about what I will be teaching my son. He’s young enough still that what he learns from us is more along the lines of drinking from a coffee cup than that whether we drink premium coffee, thank goodness. We still have time to think.
Side note: I used to read blog posts by parents that sounded like this one and wonder where they learned what to think about? Did they get some sort of class I missed that gave them a list of things to keep in mind while parenting? Then I had a child (and got past the first four months where there’s little time for thought) and suddenly I was thinking the same way. If you’re wondering where this comes from, it just pops up one day and then you think about it every hour of every day.
My husband and I talk about how to raise our son so that he isn’t a douche like many of our childhood friends whose parents had more money than ours. For both of us, from lack came focus, from hardship came a sense of responsibility.
Should we be causing some sort of lack, then, so that our son gets the same kind of focus? Barring an unforeseen hardship, how do we instill that sense of responsibility? Having come from a different kind of childhood than he’ll have, financially at least (knock on wood), we will have to teach ourselves rather than follow the example of our upbringing.
We have so many ideas, most of which I’ll share in various blog posts as we figure them out a little better, but the quote from Jennifer Lopez this morning was one I’ll be thinking about.