Remember this diagram? It’s the one I created to gather my thoughts about our child care priorities and choices. And yes, I’m reassessing, AGAIN.
BECAUSE MY KID IS SICK AGAIN… SERIOUSLY WTF!?!?!
Yes, yes, I know… kids in daycare get sick a lot in their first year, much like kids who don’t go to daycare get sick a lot when they first start school. Kids are mini-petrie dishes of grossness.
And yes, I know… I do have a wonderfully flexible job and a super helpful husband and a great, fantastic pediatrician who can see us within an hour of my calling. We have a daycare we like with staff we love that take great care of my son and keep an eye on him when he seems off.
BUT SICK AGAIN… SERIOUSLY WTF?!?!?
So, I go back to my pretty little diagram… and a new one that looks sort of like this:
Option A is where we are today and it’s a fantastic situation except when Javi is sick. This option requires some flexibility when he’s sick but offers the most happiness when he’s not. As the status quo option, this requires nothing different than what we’re doing now.
Option B is my knee-jerk response to his sickness and it could be a fantastic situation except a) I work from home and have to hide out if he’s here lest he pitch a fit and b) the woman I’d have in mind is our sitter and he HATES being home with her (though he loved her at daycare). This option also requires more money and a new work situation for me.
Option C involves a combo of Joey and a sitter alternating hours here at home with Javi. This option requires me to find a new work situation and Joey to have a less flexible schedule but could end up even in terms of cost.
Ultimately, I think we’ll be back where we started: daycare offers the best combination of socialization and our other values (ability to be flexible, adaptable, rely on other people and himself for comfort, stability, consistency, and stimulation), but it’s helpful to have a framework with which to reassess.
I’m curious. I’ve been toying with the idea of putting together a toolkit of sorts with all the nerdy charts and exercises I use in kid-related decision-making, from how to decide on a stroller to when to reassess various decisions. Call it a big framework of coping tactics for a project manager’s personality, but now I’m wondering if this is useful to other folks. Let’s be honest: this is a market survey. I very much enjoyed the online pre-conception class I took from Sara Cotner despite having some heartburn over paying for it, but in the end it was worth it. Would this be/ have been helpful to new mamas?