Javi and I visited our first potential in-home day care today before I dropped him off at daycare for the first time in five days. (Hallelujah! We’re all happier when he goes to daycare for a few hours.)
(Not hallelujah-worthy: as I was dropping him off, two daycare teachers were assessing a kid who looked like someone’d punched her in the eye. Conclusion: pink eye. My reaction: back away slowwwwwly. I dropped him off anyway after watching them wash hands and disinfect because whadarewegonnado? Sigh.)
So, first thing’s first: I have The. Most. Adorable. Child. (Clearly I’m not biased.) Really, though, he was SO excited when I got him out of the car. Clearly he didn’t know why we were there, but dude was enthused! While B and I chatted, he insisted on getting out of my lap and was off! He seemed comfortable (and nosy) the whole time we were there, checking out each room and moving along the furniture without a worry. He didn’t fuss when I was out of sight, was enthralled by the older son, and even broke out his super awesome baby war cry (show off)!
As for me, I was pretty comfortable too. When I left and was giving Joey the low-down, I remarked that I felt like like I’d be dropping my kid off at a friend’s. This is good, no?
I’m still concerned about favoritism (how can you help but pay more attention to your own kid?), possessiveness (it is her kid’s house and stuff, after all) and the lack of formality. I like clear boundaries and this is a little more casual than I might prefer, but I liked her and Javi seemed to like it all. I got the strange feeling she was what I’d be like if I was a SAHM and, well, you know, liked it.
It’ll be a bit more of a pain than our current situation because we’ll need to take his lunches and snacks… and we’ll lose our tax deduction because she isn’t a formal daycare. That said, she is 7 minutes from our home.
Tomorrow: two formal in-home daycare visits, one 15 minutes and the other 25 minutes away. Anything I should ask or look out for, other than, “Would I like it here? Would we be friends?”