My little family had a whirlwind day of visiting three in-home daycares (intermixed with frantic work calls with a panicking customer): one SAHM who watches extra kids, a former nanny with an in-home daycare and a former daycare owner with an in-home daycare.
We are very tired.
After Javi and visited with the SAHM yesterday, Joey joined us this morning – and nixed the idea. While we liked her pretty well, her 2.5 year old son was, shall we say, very good at being 2.5. He acted up with Joey (I think he was showing off) but in doing so, got my husband’s protective instincts raging. Would Javi be okay there? Probably. Will we consider it? Nope! One parental veto is enough around here. So, bummer, since they were 7 minutes away.
I was smitten with the former nanny before we even spoke. She has a website! (This is very unusual around here.) And it had all sorts of details! Man, we loved her. She felt like a younger Mary Poppins. Her son is about six weeks older than Javi, we loved her setup, and Javi was really happy (and silly!) there. She gave great answers to the questions you guys suggested, thanks so much for the ideas.
Me: How would you handle an emergency?
Her: (without skipping a beat) I have CPR training so I would do what I could, then I would call an ambulance. They would get here faster than I could get a child to a hospital and I have other kids to take care of.
She was great. We left her house feeling happy and comfy. Unfortunately, her house is a solid 25 minute commute (commute = highways and traffic). Twenty five minutes! Because our current daycare is so nearby, I get the chance to drop Javi off or pick him up (both of which I love to do) if I have a 30 minute break in meetings. With this lengthy trip, we’d have to be more scheduled about drop-off’s and pick-up’s. If I didn’t have a solid hour of availability, I wouldn’t be able to do it, or worse, I’d end up doing it but feeling guilty about multi-tasking on a call. I know me; I would totally do that.
Our casual lives would get a lot more scheduled, something we anticipate when Javi joins an 8:30 – 2:30 program, but we’re struggling to decide whether to head in that direction now.
What do you guys think? Should we keep looking? Should we suck it up and plan for the commute? Should we stick it out for three or four more months at daycare? Are all daycares petrie dishes of grossness like ours? Does anyone have a kid in daycare who isn’t sick at least once a month?
(Oh, P.S.: the third woman smokes. It was obvious the minute we walked into her house in that way smokers never think it is. She was eliminated from consideration immediately – though we stayed for a quick tour out of politeness.)