Many updates you probably don’t care about

I bought the training unders from Hanna Andersson and they are everything they were reported to be: soft, thick, and adorable on a toddler. We’ve only had one to-the-floor leak so far. If my desire to rub them lovingly each time they come out of the wash is any indication, they were a good purchase. (We like them so much, in fact, both my husband and I have checked to see if they make underwear for grown-ups. No dice, unfortunately.)

After purchasing training unders, I went ahead and bought a Prince Lionheart Weepod Basix potty seat based on Amazon reviews. It’s one piece (so easy to clean) and made of the same stuff as the Prince Lionheart Bumbo-ish seat we loved better than the Bumbo, plus – cheap. Also, the back end is flat so it sits upright on the floor when not in use and the peepee blocker thingie really works.

After seeing it sit on the floor next to the toilet and basket of undies for a few days, I took the opportunity of a kid making the gotta-poop-face, I plopped him on the potty and he pooped!  We danced and cheered but figured it was a fluke. The next day, before his bath, I plopped him up there again and he peed on the potty. Again with the cheers and believing it was a fluke. After a week of this, though, we had to admit that he was “getting it.” So, yes, we use the potty and the unders regularly around here, despite Javi being 14 months old and seemingly too young.

This is where I do a little Public Service Announcement about what we’re doing, roughly in line with Montessori “toilet learning” and why you shouldn’t think Javi is “potty trained.”  Javi isn’t potty trained. He still wears diapers when we’re out, while sleeping, and about half the time we’re at home (we’re lazy sometimes and don’t want to change him out of wet undies every half hour). Potty training is really two important parts: does the kid know what to do when on the potty, and does the kid know not to do that when not on the potty? Javi is absolutely old enough for the first but not at all for the second. If you’ve ever housebroken a really young puppy, you’ll recognize the strategy. We don’t expect him to hold it but we do give him many opportunities to do the right thing in the right place, hoping (and succeeding) in his understanding what to do when on the potty.

Now, a few weeks in, he will actually try to pee or poop when we sit him on the potty. Like a young puppy, he caught on very quickly that when he does his thing on the potty, we cheer and dance and have a party. If he does his thing in his diaper, though, we don’t. It’s not bad for him to go potty in his diaper, but he doesn’t get the party.

A few times he’s cried when we’ve put him on the potty so we’ve taken him right back off. This is supposed to be fun so we don’t push it. Once or twice he’s walked into the bathroom and placed the potty seat on the toilet all by himself, but we don’t expect that.

And that’s the state of potty affairs in our household. In two weeks he’ll start his new Montessori toddler program (eeee!) where they don’t wear diapers at all, so I’m pretty happy that we’ll have already acquainted him with the potty and underwear by then, plus, we’ll be somewhat consistent between work and home.

Now that I think of it, though, I should probably buy a backup sleep mat. If they don’t put diapers on the kids for naptime, I suspect we’ll have a pee-mat coming home every day. I bought this sleep mat by Olive Kids and am pretty happy with it:

At our school, the nap mats go directly on the floor so we needed some padding. (I’m not sure if this has enough padding.) Also, I’m not a fan of synthetic materials for sleeping and this one has an all cotton cover. Javi’s been napping on it at the sitter’s for a week to acquaint him with it so when he starts school, he’ll know which mat is his. So far, so good.

And, right in line with your recommendations and those on Amazon, these water bottles by Camelbak are the bees’ knees. Note: I’ve also seen them at Barnes & Noble for roughly the same price and Target too (but they only ever have them in pink at my Target). I love them so much I want one for myself and have started including them in the Adventure Packs I make for kids’ birthdays. I just bought an insulated version for the milk Javi will take to school but haven’t tested it out yet.


4 thoughts on “Many updates you probably don’t care about

  1. Thanks for talking about how the training underwear are going. We’re using some Montessori ideas now, but I’ve always been a little skeptical of the super early potty training. The way you explained it makes a lot of sense.

    That water bottle is super cute, by the way. Is your son able to use the bite valve? My 13-month old loves to drink out of my straw water bottle, but he hasn’t figured out the bite-valve on his dad’s yet.

  2. That’s so awesome that Javi is using the potty already? I can’t even imagine by 14 month old using his training potty for anything other than playing.
    With the underwear, do you really just leave him in regular underwear until he wets them? Is he starting to realize on his own when he is wet? Or do you notice and then change him? I’m so curious about all of this because it simply seems too good to be true to be able to start introducing him to the potty already!

    • @lisamdh, I realized this morning that I forgot to mention the step between the first part of potty learning (does he know what to do when on the potty?) and potty training (does he not do it when not on the potty?) — unders! Because diapers are made to wick away wetness, it’s hard for kids to recognize that a wet diaper is a bad thing. (This is why potty training with pull-ups often doesn’t work.) So, putting a kid in cotton training pants lets them feel the wetness and the subsequent discomfort of being in cold, wet undies. Over time, then, if you’re good about changing them into dry (warm, comfy) undies quickly, they should come to prefer that and dislike being wet… and thereby learn to avoid having wet undies someday by going to the potty.

      I’m admittedly not feeling successful in this. Javi doesn’t seem to care that he has wet undies, though he did care greatly the one time his shoes got wet. (Ew.) What we should be doing: taking him to the potty, putting on fresh (dry) undies if needed, then taking him back to the potty every half hour or whenever he drinks. If he gets wet, we should change him immediately. And yes, this means a lot of quick touches to see if his undies are wet. What we are doing: taking him to the potty at the right times but only using unders when I have the energy to change them a thousand times in an evening.

      I suppose once he starts Montessori, we’ll put him in unders at home so that we’re consistent with what they do, but for now, I’m happy just plopping him on the potty every so often and super happy when we time it right for a poop!

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